PEOPLE - The Dutch Don’t Care About Marriage

I was in Amsterdam for probably three hours when I began to see that having children and not being married was not a big deal there. In fact, marriage itself is not a big deal there. I was there to talk about my book In Praise of Messy Lives, which was coming out in Dutch, but what passes in America for a messy life is in Amsterdam just, well, how things go ...

http://www.slate.com/articles/double_x/roiphe/2013/10/marriage_and_the